Long time no see!
Dear All
How fast the times passes, I have tried hard but failed to keep pace with time! It runs, briskly!!
The routine makes us so mechanical that the brain after some time, starts clogging and then whole area of the creative thinking and writing goes in to a deep slumber. There are thoughts but the feeling to express dies. One has opinions on many things but the will to express depletes and then one day you think that how lucid your thoughts were and they are now dead.
Well this does not happen only with men who work hard day in and night out to support their families, who very quietly replace their dreams without even expressing them, with family priorities, with work pressures, with expectations of family members, society, office etc.etc., who, without complaining compromise on a whole lot of things that they ever wanted to do in their lives, but also happens with many a girls who also compromise with their dreams, ambitions, goals to first satisfy their family and then after marriage new family. The thing I want to put into perspective is that both the genders are equally responsible for the existence of mankind on this earth.
Then comes the PR exercise of WOMAN EMPOWERMENT! The social media gives it a whole new momentum. Every tom dick and harry starts a campaign supporting woman empowerment and starts blaming men for being "chauvinist". Giving umpteen examples of how the society has been carved out by men from years back in time to suit their needs, writing about how men have defamed the other gender and have made them weak single-handedly, how men are responsible for miserable state of women in many societies, religions and geographies, how men have objectified women, how men have ridiculed women over history and how men have not provided equal opportunities to women to grow.
So the so called weaker section blames men for them being weaker which I think is extremely untrue.
While writing this blog, I went through wikipedia to understand what empowerment means. Wiki says "Empowerment refers to increasing the economic, political, social, educational, gender, or spiritual strength of an entity or entities" further to explain the process it says "Empowerment is the process of obtaining basic opportunities for marginalized people, either directly by those people, or through the help of non-marginalized others who share their own access to these opportunities. It also includes actively thwarting attempts to deny those opportunities".
Now, first of all 50% of the world population cannot blame the other 50% for remaining un-empowered. Next the above line says that empowerment is process of obtaining basic opportunities, which I dont think the Constitution of India denies or for that matter any law derived out of the constitution denies. The most important thing that the above line says is that "either directly by those people, or through the help of non-marginalized others who share their own access to these opportunities" and if we still say that women - a gender as a whole or in this country are not empowered because of the men then I strongly register my protest to this argument. Because I dont think that not even a single woman in this country has not had access to any opportunity.
By this blog I just want to explain to all that men are not to be blamed for every thing bad happens to women and same way women are not to be blamed if some thing bad happens to a man. The world 'Male Chauvinism" is a myth in this modern world. Rather its the weakness of woman who have accepted this way of being in the society. Without the consent of 50% of the population the other 50% cannot dominate.
And it is not the case either. In this country and the whole world it is the powerful that dominates. If a man is powerful he dominates and if a woman is, she dominates. The world has seen the Indira Gandhis and Angela Merkels, the Mother Teresas and Malala Yousafzais, the Arundhati Bhattacharyas and Indira Nooyis, the Marilyn Monroes and Lady Gagas and the Kalpana Chawlas and Valentina Tereshkovas, the Sonia Gandhis and Sheikh Hasinas of the world.
These are the women who have dominated the world for decades under which the men did not cry for male empowerment!
I know the revert to it would be that these have been exceptions but the ground reality is different. Females are really in bad shape in Indian villages and small cities.
We say that the society is responsible for that. But does not the society include women also?
Boss, every body in the world is troubled and one cannot say under a general flag that the whole section of society is un-empowered. Men also live under a lot of stresses and problems. They are also trafficked, they are also murdered, they are also beaten, they are also killed, they also go through difficulties, they also feel weak, they also face huge difficulties living life but they dont blame females for their miseries.
The point to conclude that I want to make that we live in a society where there are males and females who make and run the society. Then there are weak and strong, both the adjectives are available in both the genders. So firstly all the weaks need to be empowered not only women. Secondly this blame game should stop that the society is male chauvinist. I know of many dominating males who have full support of their mothers/wives because of which they dominate and I also know of many females who dominate because of the support of their father/husband.
80% of the rape cases reported are fake in India, majority of crimes reported in India are against men and not women, cases of domestic violence against men are not reported only, petty violence against men are also not reported!
It is high time we understand that together it is important for us to support the weak in the society whoever it is. Both men and women are vulnerable and both men and women are strong. The strengths and weaknesses cannot be divided on basis of gender and thus gender equality (for both men and women) should be debated rather than women empowerment.
Its too long a topic to write, but I hope I have been able to spark a thought in your mind that the humanity needs to be empowered!
Signing Off
Siddharth
Dear All
How fast the times passes, I have tried hard but failed to keep pace with time! It runs, briskly!!
The routine makes us so mechanical that the brain after some time, starts clogging and then whole area of the creative thinking and writing goes in to a deep slumber. There are thoughts but the feeling to express dies. One has opinions on many things but the will to express depletes and then one day you think that how lucid your thoughts were and they are now dead.
Well this does not happen only with men who work hard day in and night out to support their families, who very quietly replace their dreams without even expressing them, with family priorities, with work pressures, with expectations of family members, society, office etc.etc., who, without complaining compromise on a whole lot of things that they ever wanted to do in their lives, but also happens with many a girls who also compromise with their dreams, ambitions, goals to first satisfy their family and then after marriage new family. The thing I want to put into perspective is that both the genders are equally responsible for the existence of mankind on this earth.
Then comes the PR exercise of WOMAN EMPOWERMENT! The social media gives it a whole new momentum. Every tom dick and harry starts a campaign supporting woman empowerment and starts blaming men for being "chauvinist". Giving umpteen examples of how the society has been carved out by men from years back in time to suit their needs, writing about how men have defamed the other gender and have made them weak single-handedly, how men are responsible for miserable state of women in many societies, religions and geographies, how men have objectified women, how men have ridiculed women over history and how men have not provided equal opportunities to women to grow.
So the so called weaker section blames men for them being weaker which I think is extremely untrue.
While writing this blog, I went through wikipedia to understand what empowerment means. Wiki says "Empowerment refers to increasing the economic, political, social, educational, gender, or spiritual strength of an entity or entities" further to explain the process it says "Empowerment is the process of obtaining basic opportunities for marginalized people, either directly by those people, or through the help of non-marginalized others who share their own access to these opportunities. It also includes actively thwarting attempts to deny those opportunities".
Now, first of all 50% of the world population cannot blame the other 50% for remaining un-empowered. Next the above line says that empowerment is process of obtaining basic opportunities, which I dont think the Constitution of India denies or for that matter any law derived out of the constitution denies. The most important thing that the above line says is that "either directly by those people, or through the help of non-marginalized others who share their own access to these opportunities" and if we still say that women - a gender as a whole or in this country are not empowered because of the men then I strongly register my protest to this argument. Because I dont think that not even a single woman in this country has not had access to any opportunity.
By this blog I just want to explain to all that men are not to be blamed for every thing bad happens to women and same way women are not to be blamed if some thing bad happens to a man. The world 'Male Chauvinism" is a myth in this modern world. Rather its the weakness of woman who have accepted this way of being in the society. Without the consent of 50% of the population the other 50% cannot dominate.
And it is not the case either. In this country and the whole world it is the powerful that dominates. If a man is powerful he dominates and if a woman is, she dominates. The world has seen the Indira Gandhis and Angela Merkels, the Mother Teresas and Malala Yousafzais, the Arundhati Bhattacharyas and Indira Nooyis, the Marilyn Monroes and Lady Gagas and the Kalpana Chawlas and Valentina Tereshkovas, the Sonia Gandhis and Sheikh Hasinas of the world.
These are the women who have dominated the world for decades under which the men did not cry for male empowerment!
I know the revert to it would be that these have been exceptions but the ground reality is different. Females are really in bad shape in Indian villages and small cities.
We say that the society is responsible for that. But does not the society include women also?
Boss, every body in the world is troubled and one cannot say under a general flag that the whole section of society is un-empowered. Men also live under a lot of stresses and problems. They are also trafficked, they are also murdered, they are also beaten, they are also killed, they also go through difficulties, they also feel weak, they also face huge difficulties living life but they dont blame females for their miseries.
The point to conclude that I want to make that we live in a society where there are males and females who make and run the society. Then there are weak and strong, both the adjectives are available in both the genders. So firstly all the weaks need to be empowered not only women. Secondly this blame game should stop that the society is male chauvinist. I know of many dominating males who have full support of their mothers/wives because of which they dominate and I also know of many females who dominate because of the support of their father/husband.
80% of the rape cases reported are fake in India, majority of crimes reported in India are against men and not women, cases of domestic violence against men are not reported only, petty violence against men are also not reported!
It is high time we understand that together it is important for us to support the weak in the society whoever it is. Both men and women are vulnerable and both men and women are strong. The strengths and weaknesses cannot be divided on basis of gender and thus gender equality (for both men and women) should be debated rather than women empowerment.
Its too long a topic to write, but I hope I have been able to spark a thought in your mind that the humanity needs to be empowered!
Signing Off
Siddharth
